If only… If only… If only…

If only I hadn’t done it… If only she… If only he would of… Are you thinking about what you might have, should have, or could have done different to change the outcome of your destructive behavior? Are you wishing you could turn back the hands of time and do it all over again? Are you regretting the harmful words you spoke that damaged a close relationship,  feeling remorse about the property you destroyed, or the harm you brought upon yourself? And now, looking back, you search for reasons for which your anger is out of control.

Explosive anger is very problematic because the outcome of a destructive response is often regretted. A quick temper does not solve problems, it exacerbates them.

Thinks about it… You could learn to be assertive, rather than aggressive, if only… You could have a better marriage, if only… Things could be better, if only… You could exercise better control over you emotions and learn anger management skills, if only… If only…

About docsmb

Dr. Bartley is a licensed professional counselor supervisor in the state of Texas. He holds doctorates in Counselor Education and Supervision and in Theology. Dr. Bartley is a Certified Anger Management Specialist IV (CAMS-IV), a member, consultant, and diplomat of the National Anger Management Association. Dr. Bartley's newest workbook,"Peace Be Still! Calming the Anger Storms Within" is available. This workbook offers a biblical perspective on anger management and includes Scripture meditation, prayers, and daily action steps. This resource is available for $20 (plus S & H). Please contact Dr. Bartley at dr.smb@hotmail.com
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